We had our first family meeting yesterday. It was serious business brought about by my hoarse voice at the end of the day from all the yelling I’m doing. I don’t like to yell. It’s no fun. The kids don’t like to be yelled at. Seems everyone’s in agreement that I shouldn’t yell. The problem is, no one listens to me or follows directions until I start yelling. So we had a family meeting and laid down the rules. I noticed a rule list in Samantha’s kindergarten that seems to work well, so I copied the idea. Here they are:
1. Follow directions the first time
2. Help each other
3. Use good manners
4. Share with each other
5. Respect each other and each other’s things
6. If you can do it by yourself, do it
7. No whining
Those cover the big issues we’re having difficulties with right now. I wrote the rules down and posted it on the wall of our main room for quick referral. I’m looking forward to invoking number 6 when the big girls want me to wipe their bottoms.
Day 1 went well. If they were breaking a rule, we reminded them of the rule. Infractions that aren’t corrected with a reminder result in a time out, spanking (daddy’s rule), and/or loss of things/privileges. By the end of the day, Samantha was telling people which rule they were breaking. We’ll see how it works.
Do you have a list of rules in your house? Any rules I’ve missed that work well for you? How do you get your kids to listen to you?